9 WEEK PROGRAM
An Invitation for Women
Heal your past hurts, overcome frustration and resentment, and learn how to finally be truly, deeply understood.
A message for the emotionally exhausted woman
If you have reached a point in the relationship where you’re starting to question; who you are, what you want, do you still love him, can you make this relationship work, can he meet your needs, will he ever understand you, is he able to grow with you as you grow…
I want you to consider there’s nothing wrong with you or your partner. It’s not your fault. It’s also not your partner’s fault. I want you to consider that as your love and commitment has gone deeper, the relationship has naturally reached a point where you feel stuck on some big issues that matter to you, but it feels risky to address and you don’t want to create further stress or upset for either of you. Chances are, like most of us, neither of you have ever been taught how to communicate effectively when you feel misunderstood, criticized, blamed, attacked, insecure, unloved, rejected. When you try, despite your best efforts, it doesn’t go well.
Over the last 20 years I’ve worked with companies, schools, couples, and individuals to help resolve conflict of all kinds.
I’ve observed that at the heart of all matters, each individual has the desire to be heard, appreciated, understood and cared for. I know that you want this for yourself and you want this for your partner. I’m also sure that you’re giving it all you’ve got, doing your absolute best with the skills you have.
However, in order to break the cycle of blame and argument, you need to create a sense of deep safety and non-judgement between you both. Most of us are never shown how. It requires a bunch of skills that are the opposite to our normal, automatic reactions. It also requires you to look at your communication skills because how, when and the way you communicate often makes matters worse, even when you’re busting your gut to make things better. Am I right?
How often do you notice yourself:
Compromising what you want to say because you don’t want to offend him?
Blaming yourself and feel guilty after you have spoken up?
Regretted sharing what mattered to you because it upset him or angered him?
Feeling held back and frustrated by his reactions?
Wished he had more self awareness so he could meet you where you are?
I invite you to take the courageous step of leading your relationship back to love.
I know you care deeply and I want to show you how to communicate so you feel heard and appreciated for how much you put in, and so the love you have for your partner love is fully received.
I want to show you how to communicate masterfully through all the difficulty and uncertainty you are facing. I want you to discover a kind of communication that will leave you and your partner feeling completely understood, so arguments can be dissolved, and love can return.
We’ll dig into our human hardwiring that makes most of our difficult conversations go bad, and we’ll work out what you really want to say to be understood AND see what she’s been trying to say to you all along.
Over the course of a 9-week Group Coaching Program with me you’ll receive practical communication skills that will help you dissolve blame and create safety for you both.
It’ll be a ‘live training’ in that you’ll practice the skills in your relationships (not just with your partner) until you start having some big wins. You’ll feel relieved and connected again, and you’ll be amazed at what you can now discuss with ease that you’d been avoiding.
Learning these communication skills will not only help your romantic relationships but they transform every relationship you have because you will have the confidence to step toward any challenges that come your way and transform them.
TESTIMONIAL
“Fish, I am so deeply grateful that you came into my life as a guiding light. Honestly, words can’t even describe the goodness I feel right now. The lightness in our home is something I had dreamt of but was beginning to think may never happen. The safety to express our love for each other is so present - oh my god. I’m pinching myself. 32 years of volatility and despair has finally come to a close and now our life together can be truly celebrated.”
Nicole, Perth - Week #12 of Coaching
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How many of these scenarios can you relate to?
Most of the women I work with are self-aware, kind and empathetic, yet they still can’t find a way to feel understood.
Has your relationship reached a point where:
You find yourself repeating yourself because it ‘s the only way to get through to him?
You don’t feel it’s safe to talk about what you need because he gets upset or angry if you do?
You’ve discovered there are certain things you can’t mention, but you wish you could?
You feel alone because even when he’s there he’s not present?
You’ve lost trust in him because he flies off the handle, shuts down or disappears when you try to talk?
You wonder if maybe the love has gone because you are no longer attracted to him?
You wish he had more awareness and could open up to whatever is going on for him?
You wish he’d meet you half way and make an effort?
You don’t know how to move on from things you have said in the past that he holds onto?
How many of these techniques have you used?:
You suggest books, men’s groups, yoga or other growth paths but he never follows through.
You have the courage to dive into an argument, which resolves things for 2 days and then it’s like he’s forgotten you reached an agreement about doing thing differently.
You gave him the silent treatment in the hope that he’ll realise he’s upset you, but in the end, it only ends up with you both more distant.
You try talking logically and practically, putting a detailed case forward of what needs to change and why, but he still thinks you’re being irrational.
You forgive him and make up but feel like you’re having to forgo your own needs.
You suggest couples counselling and therapy because no matter what you say, he doesn’t seem to understand or seem to be listening.
You discuss breaking up because you’re not sure either of you can live like this anymore.
If you are tired of feeling unheard and misunderstood, and resentment is building, then let’s talk. You deserve the connection and intimacy you’re yearning for.
